Knowledge · Relationships
Understanding relationship patterns.
Why some things keep coming back.
We bring to every relationship what we once learnt about closeness. Recurring patterns are rarely coincidence; more often they're the nervous system's well-worn paths.
Foundations
How attachment patterns form
Early relational experience shapes how safe closeness feels, and how we respond to conflict, withdrawal or criticism.
These patterns aren't fixed. They can be understood, and gradually reshaped through new experiences of relationship.
Connections
Relationship and regulation
The nervous system in relationships
In relationship we regulate one another, whether calming or amplifying.
Closeness and distance
The need for closeness and the need for space are often unevenly shared, and both are legitimate.
Emotional regulation
Recognising your own activation makes it easier to stay in contact during conflict.
Patterns
Recurring relationship patterns
Conversations may stall at the same point, or certain moments tip over again and again. In our work, we look at patterns rather than blame.
This can happen individually or together as a couple.
Common questions about relationship patterns
If you'd like to explore this for yourself.
In an initial conversation we'll look at what you're bringing and whether working together feels right.
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