You've been together for a few years, managed the first bumps in the road, love each other "despite..." and you are planning your future - together? A warm, fair and neutral ground for each to open up about difficult topics, wishes and worries, possible scenarios for your life ahead, be this in the same city, with or without children, traveling the world, or taking care of a family member. 

You've been together for many years, went through more than one crisis, sometimes can't stand how she slurps her tea or the way he reads the newspaper. You're either on the brink of divorce, having another child, or facing a different severe defiance in at least one area of your life. And you know, this could be it. This can be the toughest work ahead. And you can do it. But you also really have to. 

You (or both of you) had adverse childhood experiences or developed detrimental attachment behaviours. You might experience symptoms of co-dependancy, emotion dysregulation, hypervigilance, hypersensitivity, or difficulties in impulse control, social interaction, physical closeness, communicating boundaries, or a healthy self-worth. Couples therapy in a secure relationship is especially effective working with the mechanism of "repair by proxy".