Generally: long-term, integrative neuro-affective support for clients with
Telling your story, emerging me in your systemic experience, creating an in-depth connection for you to open up to underacknowledged aspects of your being. Multi-part anamnesis, questionnaires and inventories, genogramm and constellation work, transaction and language analysis, mapping of thought and behaviour, as well as ego state/parts work. Specifically in the first trimester of our work but also throughout every session in every phase.
Is happening all the time. Especially in the second trimester of our work you'll be introduced to different aspects of somatic work, rescripting/reprocessing interventions for dysfunctional cognitions as well as memory reconsolidation. Supported by emotion regulation, stress management, reparenting experiences and (mostly for couples) co-regulation and elements of psycho drama. This can also be the phase of health-related adjustments and transgenerational work.
Differentiation and then linkage - for a more accurate interoception (reading your physical signals), more aligned values (eg regarding your job or parenting style) or a new narrative about a very bad thing that happened to you. Every session includes integrative movement, thought experiments or interoceptive exercises for ideal synergies of the various themes of that day. The last trimester the focus lies on interconnecting the different roles and inner parts everyone has in their life for an optimal consolidation everything you will have achieved in that time.
On the first call you get a feeling for my personality and I get insights into your challenge. We define your demands: acute crisis/urgent appointment/deep dive? Or something that will take time because it took time - you grew your way into it and you will grow your way out of it. Be it about a change of intimacy in your relationship, a regret or past pain inflicted upon you or an upcoming decision that might hurt your values. Info for urgent cases:
We arrange the first appointment at short notice, in preparation for which you will receive initial questionnaires by email, if your current stress level allows this. When we meet you have the opportunity to tell your story in detail. We look at, regulate the most impactful symptoms, thoughts, emotions or questions that you bring to the room and reduce your physiological stress level using somatic work. You will receive documents from me and document your goals, wishes and next steps with me. We will have 3 to 5 appointments within a few weeks or in approx. 3 half-day settings to get you ready to face the challenge, make the decision, have the talk. And we'll meet again for recapitulation. Many clients then decide to further grow their capacities.
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Client examples: G. thrived in many areas of life in the practice a few years ago. He is getting in touch because his wife has confessed to an affair and both are unsure whether the relationship can be saved. The couple arranges three appointments with previously agreed on, detailed prompts each so that both can prepare for the topics and no one feels like they’re on trial. The couple clarifies causes, triggers, wishes, injuries, unsaid things, and expectations in a protected environment and with elements of psychodynamic partner work, transactional analysis and much more, and both gain a new level of togetherness. We arrange sparring appointments every six months in which new opportunities for growth, small ruptures and the dynamics of the couple’s system itself get space for reflection and acknowledgement.
F. comes to the practice with the anniversary of her father’s passing approaching causing her great unrest and emotional distress, which her partner is overwhelmed to deal with. The relationship is suffering, the first symptoms of insomnia, a tendency to brood, irritability and unfavourable compensatory behaviour show (alcohol and food cravings). We first work on stabilising initial resources, calming the nervous system and developing a behavioural roadmap. In three consecutive intense sessions, we work on the loss of her father in relation to what was left unsaid and dissolve themes of guilt, shame, and anger using various tools from psychology and applied neuroscience, thus integrating dysfunctional patterns. In a follow-up meeting we create the stability and freedom to look at her relationship with more openness, which we then re-strengthen in a ten-week collaboration.
We can arrange an appointment in advance to get to know each other personally or directly setup the onboarding. This can be two weekend afternoons or a whole day with you in the focus. Time for introspection, lots of reflection and new perspectives. We create a comprehensive anamnesis for a status check of your individual life domains. We develop action plans and shed light on low hanging fruits and also where the most resistance can be expected, and develop an individual roadmap and set of tools and resources for your goal. The timing of the two monthly appointments and weekly check-ins is flexible and not tied to time slots or days of the week, but to your needs and calendar entries.
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Client examples: A young man comes to me with increasingly frequent panic attacks, aggressive tendencies and hypersensitivity - everything worries and stresses him. In two onboarding afternoons, we get a clear picture of the connections between inner motives, external stimuli and past influences, as well as opportunities for greater well-being and immediately available agency. Over the course of two months, with the help of powerful emotion regulation tools, we achieve reliably accessible inner peace, a dissolution of dysfunctional thought and behaviour patterns and a re-contextualisation of perception and impulse management.
The managing director of a traditional company is struggling with a wave of layoffs. He has nightmares, skin rashes and is easily moved to tears. We take an intensive day to settle into work, go for walks (so-called walk&talks), sense into the self, so the client gets the opportunity for a personal inventory, to recenter himself and to start to let go of tensions that come with a great responsibility. Over the course of three months, we work on self-image and self-worth and, in this case, the underlying implications of his role as a son of a demanding and distant businessman.
A couple comes to work on their attachment behaviour. Their relationship is loving, but also unfree, and both want more intimacy. Coming from very different cultures, we carefully and gently examine the different degrees of possible closeness. We establish a safety net in which the comfort zone can be expanded, to then integrate past hurtful attachment experiences. Patterns and recurring themes are openly analysed and resolved with solutions that are fair, feasible, and doable for both partners and anchored on a neurological level over the course of ten months.
The concepts and automatisms that the past has created regarding self (worth, image, doubts, expression) and all thoughts and feelings. Maintenance on the state of mind, health, possible dreams, challenges, fears, and foibles. And development of resources, pleasures, freedom, and agency,
Every aspect of what's happening around you that you can and cannot influence. Fully systemic. Be it Social media, ex-wife, sick dog,...or what you bring to the table - your behaviour, compensations, reactions. Learning to un-suppress, to withstand, to respond and read cues accurately. Also specifically important in couples work.
Fewer uncomfortable reactions to (unavoidable) challenges. Getting less friction, misunderstandings, waste of time and tear down walls between partners. Unlearning patterns of activation, behaviour and even nociception (pain) and panic attacks. And a big one: less self-sabotage.
Knowledge about how mind, brain, body and communication work. Adding factual (and doable) daily/weekly steps to a neuro-appropriate routine. Capacity to face painful memories, emotions, conversations with me as your "bonus heart and brain" that you can make use of if things get overwhelming.
Everything influences everything and all is a cycle and all cycles are systemically intertwined. A change in your environment will change your sensory input will change your cognition and sensations will change your reaction will change interpersonal outcomes will change your self-image will influence decisions will alter lifestyle will ameliorate your overall health will strengthen resilience will affect your perception will influence communication will increase the depth of relationships will have impact on your environment and sensory input and so on. This also applies the from the inside out: integrating a painful memory will change your cognition will allow for healthier behaviour and more skill in empathy and the capacity to handle stress, etc. We're tackling your challenge (or below-par level of satisfactory experiences) from all sides. Mostly working with..
Neuroscience
The brain, our "computer" running our lives as we sometimes think of it. Another neuro-myth as is the three level brain with the lizard brain below and its lower instincts, the mammal brain in the middle with its innate needs and bonding behaviours and us, the wise human, orchestrating all of this and possibly "sending" our body as a mode of transportation from A to B or let it do task C, sometimes enjoy a snack or "give us" a really bad back pain after a stressful week. "We" aren't one coherent personality but many interdepending processes in relation to context, past experiences, environment and current level of "am I having a good or bad day today". To get all of this together to an optimal use of your brain, your nervous system, and the body it runs and runs through, we're working with applied neuroscience, your vagus nerve (important for relaxation, stress management, also in trauma, addiction, and chronic disease among many things), and interpersonal neurobiology (the relational space, what shapes us, making use of our evolutionary heritage as the highly developed mammal that we are, and how does cognition work in resonance with others). We are pretty much hunter-gatherers running after a taxi and getting nasty eMails instead of a bear attack every now and then. If I know what that does to my system, perception, overall health, I can handle it.
Psychology
Our soul, our personality, our motives and pleasures, but also our fears and painful memories (and what they shaped) reside here. The different schools and theories from Freud to Rogers and Satir to today with their different views and approaches regarding the human condition itself, society, parenting, social interaction, pattern development, trauma and much more will be a stretch for this medium. But it's exactly the integrated way of working together on your hopes, potentials, "triggers" (themes of activation, that is), modes of regulation, blocked emotions, dysfunctional thought patterns, and more. From rescriptive work and trauma informed memory integration and reconsolidation to somatic processing and ego state work (inner parts/critic, child, parent, etc) with elements of psychodrama, cognitive modification and behavioural science. It's not about the principle or tool we're applying but about integratedness for your individual process and current mode of consciousness, at that moment. From dysregulated, agitated or hurt to lost or numb, or possibly grieving .
Attachment Theory
The attachment categories developing in the very first years of our lives demonstrably and scientifically proven shape our every interaction (specifally in our romantic, but also our own parent-child and even business relationships). This is not bad and actually a biological imperative as in babies brain regions are designed to flexibly develop according to the input they're getting. A real life saver in many contexts but still something to be aware of regarding our capacity to trust or tolerate closeness and also disconnection and being on your own (maybe even with the TV/podcast off). Getting to know your own attachment "style" (not the scientifically accurate but commonly known title) and asking and acknowledging the question of whose life is influencing your today's (adult's!) relationships as many parents were not willing to do the work you are doing right now. This allows for massive development and changes regarding belief systems, automated reaction patterns, self-image, the depth of closeness and intimacy you are able to experience, and your perception of the world around you - the attachment system is neurologically active at all times, but also has neuroplasticity, thus can be altered and developed at any age.
Epigenetics
You knooow what you should be doing (more of, or less). Others teach you what to eat, when to check your mails/exercise/quit your job or try to avoid words like "never" and "always" when fighting with your spouse. I'm dealing with the parts that refuse to do so. Why that matters has its base in biochemistry, as our so-called epigenome (the adaptable software that sits on our DNA, a fixed genetic hardware we're born with) reacts to everything around and in us, which is real life saver when your parents suffered a famine in the mid 19th century and your metabolism uses carbs and fats really carefully. But it can be a huge burden when your own grandmother had experienced war in all its horrors, or the community you grew up in had (or even has to deal with) collective trauma. Even on a cellular level. So we're really gonna work on how you react in your social life, you nourish or punish your body (and why you do that or don't), on your sleep, on the toxines in your life, as all of this is actively fixing your epignome withing weeks, studies show. The better you, for instance, sleep, the better you can focus for better results with better feedback for a better mood at home to cook yourself a healthy dinner possibly with a now happier spouse and more sex. Or for performance-reasons at your hobby, sport, interest, also for less pain, digestion issues, or simply more years to live. Whatever the heritage or past experiences that shaped your current level of health, stability, and attitude, this is not the final verdict.
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